As much as we strive for everlasting joy, we often find ourselves wary of its fleeting nature, hesitating to fully embrace it
If there is one thing that we relentlessly pursue in life—the only thing we put all our pennies on in this big worldly gamble—it is happiness. The ultimate goal that we all crave is everlasting bliss. What charades and circuses we play to attain the state of eternal joy! While this rigmarole governs our everyday thoughts and actions, another element sneaks in as soon as we reach our dream: Fear—the fear of losing the happiness that we know is ephemeral.
Come to think of it, much as we covet it, happiness frightens us. It also makes us wary of revealing our joys, and we often hide good things to avoid getting jinxed. Why do we fear happiness? Why do we think every moment of joy comes at a price?
The fear of happiness is a paradox embedded in the human psyche. It’s almost as if we’ve been conditioned to believe that joy is too fragile to last, that it carries an expiry date we cannot predict.
This belief turns happiness into a double-edged sword: on one side, it is the elation we strive for; on the other, it is the dread of its inevitable end. Where does this fear originate? Perhaps it stems from a deep-seated awareness of life’s impermanence.
We’ve all seen moments of bliss snatched away by unexpected turns of fate. A child’s innocent laughter may be followed by tears, a promotion at work may bring unforeseen stress, and a long-anticipated celebration may be marred by tragedy. These experiences condition us to approach happiness with caution, to brace ourselves for the fall even as we revel in the peak.This trepidation finds cultural expressions, too. Superstitions like “knock on wood” or “touch iron” are more than quaint habits; they are safeguards against the perceived fragility of joy. Similarly, the kaala teeka or talisman traditions reflect a universal belief that happiness attracts envy and, by extension, misfortune.
We place such conditions maybe because happiness, unlike sorrow, feels fleeting and illusory. Pain lingers and forces us to adapt, but happiness feels transient, like a butterfly—beautiful, delicate, and always ready to flit away. Is it fair to treat happiness as a precarious treasure? By fearing it, do we not dilute its essence and sabotage our ability to experience it fully? Modern life has made this paradox even more pronounced. With social media encouraging us to share our highs, celebrating joy has become a public event. On one hand, we feel validated by likes and comments; on the other, the exposure amplifies our unease.
Will the digital applause somehow disrupt the balance of our good fortune? These questions linger, even as we hit the “share” button with a smile.But perhaps the greater fear is not external—it’s internal. Happiness asks us to be present, to be vulnerable, and to believe that we deserve good things.
For many, this is a daunting proposition. When shaped by struggles or conditioned to expect the worst, joy feels foreign, even undeserved. The fear of losing it becomes a defence mechanism, a way of preparing ourselves for the inevitable end of happy times. It is important to recognise that happiness, like all emotions, is inherently fleeting. Accepting its impermanence allows us to savour it without clinging or dreading its end.
Happiness deserves the same grace.Vulnerability is the price of true happiness, and the courage to embrace it, however briefly, is what makes life rich. Sharing our joy—whether with loved ones or the world—is not an invitation to misfortune but an act of trust in the abundance of good things.
Let’s challenge the belief that happiness comes at a cost. Life’s highs and lows are inevitable, but they are not always sequential. A moment of joy does not necessitate a subsequent sorrow.
Joy, in its purest form, deserves to be embraced—without caution, without apology, and most importantly, without fear. It’s all easier said than done, I admit.
(The author is a columnist and writing coach based in Dubai. Views are personal)
