A young girl and boy got attracted towards each other. Having been in a relationship for a while, they decided to get married. But the boy’s parents do not agree, because their charts do not match.
The love mates, however, are keen to get married, but do not wish to hurt their parents either. The girl’s parents too are eager to make it happen so as to get relieved of their obligation as soon as possible. So, the girl’s side is looking for a way out by which the boy’s parent’s stand could be softened.
The girl’s representative accordingly came with a straight question: “Can you offer some technical grounds that allow making exception to the mismatch in their chartsIJ Alternately, could you suggest some remedial measure to ward off the implications of the mismatchIJ”
“What would be the fate of a relationship which is premised on a weak footingIJ” I asked the questioner. To that he referred to Amitabh Bachchan having got puja done to counter the evil influence of chart mismatch before his son Abhishek married Aishwarya Rai. He then said, “Why can’t a similar puja be done in this caseIJ”
My simple response was, “Those conversant with the founding principles of astrology will not be impressed by what a celebrity does, and would be rather guided by the basic canons of the discipline. There is no sense in debating over the tokenism exercised by the Bachchans, as it remains their exclusive privilege. If one has faith in the system, he/she should be particular about seeking guidance from a proven astrologer. For, advice offered by half-knowing pundits could be simply misleading. Such decisions have long term bearing on the couple’s life, and therefore, you can’t afford to go about casually in such matter.
Or else, stand up to your own discretionary power. In any case, finally, you have to take the call. Even here in India, not many subscribe to marriage matching, and yet, not all such marriages break. I am afraid any attempt to subvert the basic principles in a bid to project being true to both, is simply fraught with danger.”
To make things clear, a brief look into the driving principles of the matching process becomes imperative, so as to understand its worth. It is a two stage process to explore the expected level of compatibility of the two, and based on valid reason. First, a look into the positioning of mind-signifying moon in the two charts offers clue to the inherent mind-trends of the prospective couple. This prima facie presents a picture of how compatible they would be. And finally, detailed reading into the personality-traits of the two brings forth their inherent trends of their desire, habits and attitudes. This study offers a clear insight into how the two would react and respond to each other or remain supportive of each other in day-to-day life, overriding one another’s individual limitations.
Remember, mind drives a being, and therefore, compatibility of the prospective partners becomes subject to how their minds are inherently framed. Evidently then, the evil influences of compatibility mismatch could be countered only by such remedial measure as would help address their mental-infirmities, which does not seem possible through any belief driven puja.
Well, it is but natural for young boys and girls to get drawn towards each other. And they are within their right to make their own choice. The problem, however, here in India is that unlike in the West, young boys and girls in their love frenzy, do not allow time and space to explore each other’s basal tendencies with an open mind. In the process, the frailties of the other side often get ignored. It is only when they settle down into marriage that eventually their true nature come into full play. For, thereafter, they begin to take each other for granted. But by that time it becomes too late.
let us now look at the common denominating factors that make their marital happiness and stability questionable. Moon matching scores 12 counts out of a total of 36. In the personality assessment, the prime mover, the sun in the two charts, cross path with the limiting saturn, pointing to a habitual grudging, grumbling, negative and a suspicious mind-set. Moon of the two placed adverse to uranus grants them with a mercurial temperament, carrying the tendency to contest each other on every count, and habitually defiant of conventional wisdom. No further exploration is needed to figure out the possible fate of their marital life.
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