A toddler, fresh to the world, remains curious to know anything and everything noticed upon, and with full expanse of conscious mind-space available to store them all on as-is-where-is basis.
For, the child’s faculty of discriminate-intelligence is yet not geared up to discern what would be worth absorbing or discarding. All these memory inputs make a deep impact on the child’s mind and psyche that may continue to influence their thought process for long. Sometimes the impact is so strong that it could override the usual destiny-defining inherent tendencies carried over from the previous birth that begin to gradually unfold from the age of 8. No wonder that Indian Astrology ascribes child’s destiny to the parents till they attain 8 years by age. So, experientially it comes out that the personality of a being is not simply dependent on the destiny indications carried over from the previous birth. The early childhood impressions do also carry considerable influence in the making of a being.
That makes parenting a very challenging task. For, one hand, they are to guide their children about what stands true to them in contemporary terms. And at the same time, they are to be trained in a way that helps them overcome some of the negative tendencies carried over from the previous life. To sum up, the children would present themselves in life the way they would have been shaped by their parents. The parents, therefore, need to be fully alert to set their child’s premise right. Otherwise, children shall have to pay heavy price later in life, and for no fault of theirs. True, parent’s intent towards their children cannot be invariably questioned. The truth of life, however, is that many a times, the parent’s out of their own ignorance have been found to be mindlessly misdirecting their children, and to their detriment.
A case in point is that of a well educated young lady who presents herself as a weakling, low in confidence, over-laden with inertia, and not able to cope up with callings of even usual chores of life with ease and comfort. She keeps looking for due support and guidance on every count, and prefers playing second fiddle to others rather than leading herself in her own right. She rarely takes any initiative on her own. She needs lot of prodding and encouragement for putting into act even such things for which she would be otherwise well equipped. The question now is: Is she born with such inherent traits or she has been reared up this wayIJ Her astrological chart presents a very interesting story, which contrasts her present demeanour.
Her lagna-lord Moon, over the head in the fiery and active sign Aries owned by Mars speaks of a strong-headed person who may pay a price but not play second fiddle even to the seniors. She would be a leader in her right, capable of carrying along a team with strength, vision and determination. Such characters are action-oriented, many a times not allowing time and space for even applying proper forethought before jumping into an act. Benevolent Jupiter in exaltation rising in the lagna makes her a well meaning and a reasoned person driven by well laid down value system. Jupiter favourably disposed off to fiery Mars in the 9th house should have made her a resolute person having the strength and courage to conduct fearlessly in life. Jupiter, also identified with wisdom, extends its due support to intelligence-signifying Mercury. That makes her an insightful, and a keen learner who could unravel true import of a subject under study, and then apply them with finesse in practical terms. It also grants her with excellent communicative skill. All put together qualifies her to make it big in life. The question now is: How is it that she presents herself just the opposite of her inherent trendsIJ
let us now look at her parental influence. Uranus posited in the mother-signifying 4th house in opposition to lagna lord Moon, points to an overbearing and over-possessive mother dictating her daughter all the time. If that was not enough, the 4th sub-lord Sun posited in the father signifying 9th house, occupies the lunar constellation of Saturn tenanted in the lagna house. Even 9th sign and sub-lord Jupiter too happens to be in the lunar constellation of limiting Saturn. The implication is that the lady’s parents were so restrictive in their approach and had bound her to so much of don’ts that the very word “No” got imprinted deep in her psyche. And that has overtaken her thought process so much that her usual response begins with a habitual no. I wish the parents refrain from inducing sense of negativity while tending their child.