We must start questioning the unrealistic expectations placed on women and inculcate a culture that promotes shared responsibilities and duties

Indian women are increasingly taking on obligations that exceed 55 hours per week. They manage to pursue their professional careers while also managing a household—what one may refer to as the “second job.” It reveals an unsettling fact about the intimidating pressure on women to perform above their capabilities. Although this problem between job and private life affects women all over the world, it is especially difficult for Indian women due to cultural expectations, societal standards and the long-held conviction that they “must do it all.”

The question arises: why is there so much pressure on Indian women to push themselves beyond their breaking point? The answer lies in deeply ingrained gender roles and societal expectations. While strides have been made in women’s empowerment, the onus of managing the household and caring for children continues to largely fall on their shoulders, even as they excel in their careers.

As more women enter the workforce and pursue professional goals, the expectation to continue fulfilling traditional roles has not diminished. Instead, it has expanded, creating an unsustainable juggling act.

Are women taken for granted? In many ways, yes. The concept that women are born to balance this act manifests itself in the belief that they can easily handle a high-demanding profession while also serving as primary carers, homemakers, and support for the rest of the extended family. However, such an assumption ignores the impact on their physical and mental well-being. Each woman’s drive is influenced by the societally imposed “superwoman” image, which puts undue pressure on them. And when they falter, they are unfairly judged.

But why should society judge women for trying to manage the impossible? The expectations placed on women often come with little recognition or appreciation for the sacrifices they make. Instead, when women struggle or choose to prioritise one aspect of their life over another, they are met with criticism rather than compassion.

This is especially true for those who lack a strong support system. If a woman does not have family members willing to share the load of child-rearing or household management, she is left to carry an even heavier burden. Should she be judged for this? Absolutely not.

Let us not forget that many Indian women are also teachers, a profession that requires nurturing, patience and a relentless dedication to the betterment of future generations.

These women are shaping young minds in the classroom while simultaneously caring for their own families at home. The least society can do is give them the space and freedom they deserve, without the weight of judgement.

It’s time we, as a society, recognise that women’s worth is not measured by their ability to “do it all.” We must start questioning the unrealistic expectations placed on them and, instead, advocate for a culture that promotes shared responsibilities.  Supporting women in their endeavors—whether in their careers or at home—by giving them the freedom to make choices without judgment is essential. Only then can we begin to alleviate the unnecessary pressures that have, for too long, weighed on the shoulders of Indian women.

(The author is a motivational speaker and a freelance writer; views are personal)