There is no question of responsibility when it comes to love, says Osho
The mind creates questions. They may look very relevant and rational, but they are against experience and existence. And because the whole world is communicating with each other only through the mind, nobody raises his or her voice against such questions, that many of them are basically wrong.
For example, this question of love being a responsibilty is fundamentally wrong. It is out of total misunderstanding. love knows no responsibility, because love itself is responsibility. To separate love and responsibility is simply stupid. Although all moral systems of the world separate it and many men also spend their entire lives living by it. Their idea of responsibility does not correspond with existence, but only with their own logics.
And it has to be understood that logic is man-manufactured. It does not grow in the fields. It is not like the mountains and the stars and the babies. It is simply a projection of the human mind projection. And undoubtedly it has dominated humanity for many a centuries. It has destroyed many valuable possibilities and significant potentialities. It has closed many doors to the mysteries of life. It has made man almost blind to light, to consciousness, to bliss and to the fundamental essence of truth.
But its domination has been so long that it isn’t easily apparent that it goes on committing mistakes against existence. I would like to dissect this question as minutely as possible. Only dissection of the question will make you aware that it does not need an answer.
Responsibility, according to all moral codes, is a kind of duty. We all know when the word ‘duty’ is used it has something attached to it as a burden. You have to do it, because you have been told to do it in spite of yourself. And you feel guilty if you don’t fulfill the requirements of carrying that burden. You somehow happen to feel that you are escaping from your responsibility. If you do it, you feel enslaved and thoroughly destroyed as an individual. So on both the counts, you are in trouble. love, on the other hand is completely forgotten, because love needs a revolution in your consciousness. It is not so cheap as responsibility. Responsibility can be taught to you by the priests, by the teachers. Nobody can teach you love. You have to find love yourself, within your being, by raising your consciousness to higher levels. And when love comes, there is no question of responsibility. You do things because you enjoy doing them for the person you love. You are not obliging the person, you are not even wanting anything in return, not even gratitude.
On the contrary, you are grateful that the person has allowed you to do something for him. It was your joy, sheer joy. love knows nothing of responsibility. It does many things, it is very creative and shares all that it has, but remember that it is not a responsibility. Responsibility is an ugly word in comparison to love.
love is natural. Responsibility is created by cunning priests and politicians who want to dominate you in the name of God, in the name of the nation, in the name of family, in the name of religion or in any fashion that’ll solve their purpose.