Osho writes that pregnant mothers should keep guard over their mental state
Happiness needs a little awareness, otherwise one can always lose it easily. It is difficult to get it; it is easy to lose it. It is very illusive: once lost, to catch hold of it again becomes difficult. So whenever you feel that something is entering the mind which can disturb it, throw it immediately, because there is nothing else which is more valuable. And right now, when you are pregnant, nothing else should be allowed in the mind because these are the impressions which the child will carry for his whole life.
The child is not just a part of your body. It is part of your mind too. It is nourished by your body, it is nourished by your thoughts, it is nourished by your emotions, it is nourished by your inner vibe! When the mother feels sad, the child feels sad. When the mother feels happy, the child feels happy, because the child has no independent existence yet: it simply vibrates with you.
So when a woman is pregnant, she has great responsibility. It is not only a question of your being happy or not, because that is not such a big thing: you can be unhappy and come back. But the child is learning, absorbing, and that will be his whole life’s reality.
So just remain happy, and it is simple if you are a little alert, because when something enters that can disturb your happiness and peace.... It is not very big, it is maybe just a tiny thing, very meaningless; when you think about it you will laugh about it... When it enters it is very seed-like, but if you allow it to enter it becomes a big tree and then it is very difficult to uproot it.
It clings, it gets rooted in your heart. In the beginning anything is very small and to throw it is very simple. To wait is dangerous; it gets roots. And when a tree has grown big, even if you throw it, it will leave many seeds in the soil and many roots in the soil; and again and again it will come back.
Just watch... be on guard.
When somebody is miserable he has nothing to be worried about — remember it! A miserable person has nothing to lose; he can be at ease. But when you are happy you have something valuable to lose. You cannot be at ease; you have to be on guard. And these moments are valuable — for the child on one hand and for you on the other hand. Because when a child is born, one other person is also born — the mother.
It is a double-birth: on one hand the child is born, on the other hand, the mother. You will never be same again once you are a mother. A woman is one thing, a mother totally another. Her consciousness, her responsibility, her love, is different. She cannot be frivolous any more.
And great changes happen — not only in the body, but in the psyche. Your breasts will become full of nourishment for the child. Now from where and how does it happenIJ Even up to now, biology has not been able to explain exactly how it happens — why the mother suddenly becomes full of milk. And this is the bodily change, the hormones in the body changing...
Exactly parallel to it something in the psyche is changing. As your breasts will be full of nourishment for the child, your psyche will be full of love; that has never been so before. It is one thing to love (your husband); to love the child is totally different. There is a possibility of divorcing your husband but there is no possibility of divorcing your child.
The husband is your choice; the child is God’s choice. The husband, only rarely in some moments, penetrates you and becomes one with you. The child has been nine months you... not with you, he has been you. Nobody else can be with you so much. That’s why husbands don’t like the coming of children much. A deep resistance is there — once the child is there, he will feel jealous.
He will see you loving the child and carrying the child and he will feel jealous; he will always feel the child is in between. And once a woman is a mother she has arrived home!
courtesy Oshoworld