The time that we spend worrying about issues can be better utilised to change the situations we are afraid of facing, says Jai Madaan
If it’s the way your hair looks, the car you’re driving or the number of new items in your closet that is worrying you, then you are incredibly fortunate. In today’s world, there’s a lot one can be worried about — health, relationships, political and religious conflicts, personal security, job and bills. But no matter how serious the issue to worry about is, once you let worries occupy your mind, they will take a toll on your body and soul.
The thing about worrying is that it takes up time, effort and energy. Worrying is hard work, it causes your mind to examine possible outcome of events, predict worst case scenarios and plan for situations that don’t exist yet. Mostly we do not realise that the precious time we spend worrying could be better utilised to change the outcome we are afraid of facing. Essentially, it is probably the worst form of procrastination.
It has been said that worrying is like a rocking chair. It will keep you busy but you don’t move forward or away from the problem. So if there is something you can do about the issue to either make it easier to handle or to get rid of it completely, then there is no need to worry, and it’s better to spend your time and energy in rectifying the situation. On the other hand, if there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop whatever is that’s worrying you, then why worry at allIJ Also, if you are absolutely certain that a particular outcome is going to be negative, keep in mind that good things can be derived from bad experiences.
It’s important to remember that whatever you’re facing, you’re not alone — you’re not the first and you definitely won’t be the last — there have been people who have been in your situation before and successfully conquered it and there will be people who will face the same problem long after you have overcome it. It would also help you to remember how far you’ve come. Your accomplishments don’t necessarily have to be certificates and awards — remember everything you have faced, the battles you’ve won and the fears you have overcome. Remember to be thankful for all that you are blessed with — gratitude for the things that you presently have in your life is vital.
Worrying about tomorrow will take away your peace today, so rather than wasting your energy on a worry, try converting it into positive action towards changing the result that you fear. Calm your nerves by doing something productive. Acknowledge that good and bad things will come at unexpected intervals. Nobody can foretell the future. Don’t forget to appreciate every good thing you experience and learn from every bad one. It is this learning and that will play an imperative part in reducing your tendency to worry.
(The writer is an astrologer, vastu expert and a spiritual healer)