BRAHMAKUMAR NIKUNJ familiarises us with methods to help ourselves sail through the rough tides of life and attain permanent bliss
All of us have a deep desire to be in a state of happiness forever. But it is quite difficult to find someone who is truly blessed, to remain always happy. Isn’t itIJ The fact is that for most of us, the happy times are often broken by periodic sorrow or disappointment. It has been observed that a pre-requisite for happiness is success in all of our endeavours. Therefore, all of us go to great lengths to ensure that we succeed in everything we do. But unfortunately here too, things do not always shape up the way we want them to be.
Throughout our life, we put in maximum possible efforts to succeed in order to prevent failure, but ironically, in spite of all our desire for success, we ourselves undermine our efforts by thinking negatively. It might be hard to believe, but the reality is that we pave the way for our success or failure through our own thoughts. Yes! After all, every human action begins with a thought, which is followed by reflection, a decision and then action. So, if our thoughts and actions are completely in harmony, we attain success. However, if our mind is full of doubts or fear regarding the task we are performing, then it undermines our chances of success.
So then how does one train a thought to work in our favourIJ Is it really possibleIJ Yes, it is. The only thing that we need to do is to make our thoughts as pure and positive as those of the Almighty Supreme who transforms this world from one of sorrow and misery to that of peace and happiness with just a seed of a powerful thought. A simple way to begin this process of transformation is to use asseveration. An asseveration is a resolute statement that we make to ourself. All of us use it intentionally or unintentionally throughout our day.When we wake up with a positive thought like: ‘I feel great’, that is a positive asseveration. On the other hand, if we drag ourself out of bed in the morning and whimper: “Ohh I feel drowsy,” then that is a negative asseveration. We must understand that both these statements directly concern the emotional states that we are in.
Majority of the people across the world do not give much importance to self-talk, that is, to those things that we say to ourselves. It is indeed a very important part of our life, because it deeply affects our conscious and subconscious mind. Remember, we listen to everything we say to ourselves consciously or sub-consciously. Because our asseveration works so well to create and maintain our state of mind, we can use it cleverly to change our state of mind in accordance with the best of advantage. There is no doubt that it takes a lot of effort and time, but with persistence, asseverations can become a strong tool to make our outlook and life healthier and happier. We can either create or maintain a powerful state of mind with positive asseverations or use them to counter our negative self-talk.
let’s say you are running for a half marathon. In spite of all the preparations, you tend to lose rhythm and get into some snag. All of a sudden your confidence sags and you catch yourself thinking, “I can’t do this. I shouldn't have registered for the half-marathon at all. My capacity is too low, I am too weak as compared too others.”
All this negative thinking, if allowed to persist, will guarantee that you fail. You can make up some positive asseverations to counter this thinking. like, you might think, “I feel confident, I can do this; slow and steady wins the race.” If you repeat this several times, you will soon start feeling better and achieve your desired goal.
These kinds of tools are simply the best and easiest to bring about a positive change in our lives. If these are used correctly, they can help us grow and heal faster. While using this self-motivation technique of asseveration, we become more conscious of our thoughts, feelings and behaviour, and start feeling better about ourselves. The only thing that we need to remember is: “Never to give up”, because however slow the results may seem in coming, these technique gives us greater control over our thoughts, feelings and behaviour, putting us in charge of our life. So start using this technique from today and motivate yourself and others around you to excel in their lives and achieve a state of permanent happiness.
The writer is a spiritual educator