A young couple, fed up with continued marital discord, came asking one day: “Is there any scope for improvement in our marital life or are we destined for separationIJ
” Have you two ever tried to dispassionately analyse the reasons why you fight, I askedIJ The husband complained that his wife did not listen to him. For him, she was over demanding, rebellious and would not allow him to save enough for future. The wife had an altogether different story to tell. “Saving is welcome, but not by comprising on the bare necessities of life such as food, child’s education, and other provisions of the household. I am compelled to pay for my child’s education out of my own meagre earning. He does not allow me to use air-cooler even during the peak of summer. My mother-in-law keeps interfering in every bit of my life, and my husband blindly follows her commands. He never cares for my concerns,” the lady lamented.
A look at the man’s chart revealed that his wife, though not perfect in all respects, should be a well-meaning person. For, the seventh lord identified with the married partner is in exaltation. And therefore, the lady’s grievances appeared to be, by and large, genuine. On the contrary, the man’s inherent tendencies looked flawed. His lagna identified with the basic frame of his making, the mind-indicator Moon, and intelligence-signifying Mercury serve as pointers.
The man is born in Gemini lagna, with its lord Mercury debilitated. The implication is that he would be self-centric, oblivious to other’s concerns, and wish to live on his own exclusive terms. It is difficult for him to digest anything that would be at variance with his perceptions. What further vitiates his thought process is that Mercury is placed in the constellation owned by Saturn, which occupies the third house identified with his baser tendencies, younger siblings, and immediate environmental influences. Here again, Saturn is conjunct restive Rahu and also placed adverse with the Sun. Incidentally, Rahu being the fourth sub-lord speaks of his ill-meaning mother. These factors put together, in the first place, point to the fact that he would be under the influence of his scheming mother and younger siblings. Rahu, further placed adverse to the seventh lord Jupiter, would imply that the man’s mother will be habitually and continuously scheming against her daughter-in-law to belittle her. Second, the man would have had a humble beginning, having lived in depravity during his early childhood. The imprints of his depravity have bred in a sense of fear about the repeat of his early childhood conditions in the future. That tempts him to hoard as much as possible so that he does not have to face similar situation ever. In the process, the man has forgotten that saving does not mean that his immediate dependants be deprived of their bare needs.
The reason: The Sun placed adverse to Saturn brings in a negative mindset. It also makes him sadist by nature — someone who derives vicarious pleasure by forcing others relive his past. This explains his behaviour towards his wife and child. On top of that is debilitation of his mind-indicator Moon. That brings in a suspicious, scheming and revengeful mind.
With such a mean mindset, how can the man even think of a enjoying a happy marital lifeIJ He needs to correct his approach towards life and care for his wife’s concerns before expecting from her to behave.
The writer is an astrologer, vastu consultant and spiritual counsellor. Write to him at G-5, Basement, Jungpura Extension, New Delhi 14 Tel: 9818037273/ 24310031
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