The other day a desperate girl in her mid-thirties, and yet not married, came with a strange request: “Can you please do some magical trick to ensure that I am able to get hooked on to my next pick for relationshipIJ My problem is that despite investing so much of emotions, I had to bear with three successive failures in relationships during the last couple of years. It is really getting too late to settle down in life.”
I confronted her with a counter-question: “Have you ever tried to figure out as to why you were not able to earn their love and confidence despite being so beautiful and charming, a good family background, and a good job in hand with handsome packageIJ” “Well, on my part, I entertained them all decently. I really don’t understand what made them lose interest in me. I take it as if I was so fated,” she replied.
Well, in the first place, if you believe that everything in life is predestined, then there is no scope for such demeaning practices playing to the contrary. Second, if such uncouth methods could make your whims and fancies come true to your asking, then the law of karma loses all relevance. I am really shocked to find such a highly educated girl even thinking of taking resort to such boorish practices. Instead, if you would have ever tried to look within, you would have probably found the answer.
Always remember, no relationship can ever work one way just in a demanding mode. The two prospective partners need to relate to each other in a mutually giving mode, being appreciative and supportive of each other’s concerns and aspirations overlooking few insignificant individual limitations, for it to work. It is here that you have failed. From your chart, the characteristic features of your estranged boyfriends cannot be made out, but it does speak loud about your infirmities.
The first marker is your Gemini lagna, with its lord Mercury conjunct restive Rahu, and placed adverse to Uranus. That makes out an unconventional, opinionated, eccentric, and a restless girl lacking patience, and with fervent desire to live on one’s own exclusive terms. Strange would be your expectations in life, invariably at variance with all conventional societal norms. Also, you may habitually doubt your elders’ intent and counsel, find fault with them, and defy them. Second, you appear to be a stubborn character, as would placement of the two luminaries, the Sun and Moon, respectively posited in fixed signs imply, and both afflicted. That gets you fixated to your mind-set that may not allow any independent space to others. You carry the tendency to relish only ‘yes persons’, and are put off with those who ever differ with you. Third, debilitated Moon placed adverse to the Mars, makes you irritable, and likely to flare up even on trivial issues. And in the heat of the moment, you may lose all sense of reason, whereafter you may become overcritical of others, and would be tempted to pass caustic remarks.
That also makes you a habitually grudging and grumbling girl. Fourth, your volatile emotionality, coming as it may with Venus placed adverse to the Sun. That makes you too touchy and sensitive, whereby you may get over-exercised even on trivial issues and stretch them beyond their due, when your frailties may over take your mind’s drive.
And if all that would not be enough, you are also vulnerable to nurse peculiar beliefs, as Jupiter locks horns with mischievous Neptune. So, no wonders, you are tempted to explore such weird methods to meet your ends. let me add here that those who claim to make your wish come true through black-magic have a peculiar knack of knowing all that is there in your memory through the help of spirit. They may come out with such event in the past, which you may not wish to share with anybody. You may become impressed, and fall into their trap, and realise only when the damage is done. They cannot figure out the future happenings at all, because what has not happened is not there in store of memory yet. They cannot make things happen your way. If it would be possible, then why do they not gain things for themselvesIJ
At the best they can disturb the weaklings by projecting negative energy, but no way can they touch upon the mentally strong and confidant ones. It will, therefore, be simply stupid to get onto such weird exercise. Better you work upon your own infirmities, and try to improve upon your own inter-personal relationship skills, and your desire will come true.
The writer is an astrologer, vastu consultant and spiritual counsellor. Write to him at G-5, Basement, Jungpura Extension, New Delhi: 14
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