A gentleman worried about delay in getting his daughter married off came asking the other day: “What is wrong with my daughter’s destiny that even at the age of 31, she is not married yetIJ Is there any remedial measure that could hasten her marriageIJ”
At the outset, I assured the girl’s father that her marriage is promised and the doors for which may open up during the second half of the year. And then I confronted him with a counter-question: “Are you looking for a stable and happy marriage for your daughter or just wish to discharge your obligations and leave the rest to her destinyIJ” “I certainly wish her a good marital life, but such undue delay is definitely worrisome, as most of her contemporaries are already married, some having children as well,” he said.
Remember, every individual is born unique, each pre-programmed to negotiate life one’s own exclusive ways, which also includes marital prospect. And in this scheme of things, she is due for a delayed marriage. For, in this particular case, the marriage indicator, Mars and Venus, both occupy the lunar constellation of delaying Saturn. This apart, her astrological chart does also spell out the reasons for delay, and purposely so. For, the girl needs enough of time and space, to become matured enough to handle the subtleties of married life with ease and comfort. And, but for which, her marital stability may become questionable.
It may not be out of place to mention here that marital happiness and stability is dependent on how the prospective partners would engage each other in their day-to-day life. And that is largely dependent on their attitudes. And if it ever they carry the potential to work at cross-purposes with each other, say for instance inflated ego, marital turbulence becomes inevitable. In such cases, it becomes necessary to work upon one’s frailties in time. There are two ways one could get over such attitudinal weaknesses. First, you may learn through lessons had while negotiating the challenges faced in course of the usual run of life, which calls for sufficient time. Second, you consciously identify your weaknesses and then try to address them in all seriousness. In this context, it is difficult to digest that any belief driven remedial measures could take care of any individual’s mental infirmities. If any body can help in this respect, it is the individual-self alone. To sum up, in stead of looking for belief driven remedial measures in the hope of hastening marriage, it would be better that the girl tries to set her basic premise right. In this sense, delayed marriage may prove to be a blessing in disguise.
let us now look at the girl’s inherent weaknesses. The first to make note of are the two luminaries, the Sun and Moon placed opposite each other. Both are locked in adverse formation to Jupiter as well as Uranus. That points to her swaggering ego and out of touch with ground realities. As a consequence, she may remain stuck to her self-defined dos and don’ts, and not open to look beyond. If ever, things go beyond her predefined parameters, it will be difficult for her to digest, and may overreact without any due diligence. What would further play spoilsport with her inter-personal relationships is that she would be emotionally volatile, high-strung, and has a mercurial temperament. She would be temperamentally unconventional, habitually having doubts on the intent of her traditional parents and elders. She may even defy her elder’s views and counsels, if it were not in conformity with her self-defined perceptions, a tendency which may later come into play while dealing with her in-laws. What further tells upon her inter-personal relationships is Mercury, placed adverse to Mars, Venus, and Neptune. That makes her bad tempered, irritable, hyper-critical, argumentative, who may not apply reason before drawing conclusion. That also accounts for her impaired reasoning and judgment. If that would not be enough, Mars placed adverse to Neptune makes her a complex character vulnerable to misdirect her energies, of all things towards self-undoing acts.
The positives, too, are immense, which promises her a good career prospect. However, in so far as her inter-personal relationship skill is concerned, her positives get marginalised more often by her attitudinal frailties. That not simply carries the potential to vitiate her marital harmony and stability, but could extend its wings even to her career-growth prospects. I wish, the girl takes necessary corrective measures before it becomes too late.
The writer is an astrologer, vastu consultant and spiritual counsellor. Write to him at G-5, Basement, Jungpura Extension, New Delhi 14
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