A mother worried about undue delay in her son’s marriage, shared her concerns with me: “My son is handsome and is doing very well in his career. He has already completed 32 years and yet not married, despite our continued efforts. Why soIJ Is his chart blemished in terms of his marital prospectIJ If so, suggest some remedial measure to offset that.”
“There is nothing like the chart being blemished calling for remedial measure. An astrological chart serves as a mirror of one’s life, which reflects upon the general trends of life including one’s marital prospects. Your son’s chart very clearly indicates a delayed marriage, close to 32-34 years of age”, I responded.
She asked, “Would it not imply that my son’s chart is blemishedIJ For, all his friends have married, some of them have children also”. “Madam, every individual is born unique, who has come up in life with individual-specific trends, programmed to negotiate life exclusively one’s own way. So, there remains no scope for any comparison,” I explained.
Remember, if there are indications of delayed marriage, it is always there with a purpose. Probably, nature wishes to allow enough of time and space to address one’s mental and emotional infirmities, vital to marital harmony and stability, and become mature enough to deal with the intricacies of life with ease.
It is pertinent to note here that we are all a part of large existence, set into a compulsive interdependent structure. For, each of us is incapable of meeting existential needs by oneself. But together, we are able to make it, which calls for relating well to all and sundry. The irony, however, is that each of us is born with individual-specific likes, dislikes, habits and attitudes, desire trends, and mental orientation, often at variance with others. That makes it difficult to be in harmony with others. But life has to move. That calls for overcoming our individual limitations, improve our interpersonal relationship skill so as to relate well with others, transgressing all individual limitations.
Following the above mandate, nature provides ample opportunity to individuals to address their individual limitations, and be geared up to be in harmony with others. And so is your son’s marriage delayed, so that he is able to work upon his inherent personality traits that would have otherwise proved detrimental to marital harmony and stability.
“But how is it that my son is able to manage at work, when his interpersonal relationship skill stands so compromisedIJ” The lady asked.
Well at work, he is aware of the consequences of crossing his limits whereby he may lose even his job. However, at home, usually one takes near and dear ones for granted. look at the astrological pointers to your son’s inherent habits and attitudes.
The most important marker is his lagna lord, Mars. Occupying a fixed sign, it points to being a stubborn character fixated to own perceptions, and not accommodating enough to appreciate other’s sensibilities and concerns. Second, being opposite Jupiter speaks of his swaggering ego, out of touch with reality. That makes him stuck to his self-defined dos and don’ts, and not prepared to look beyond to figure out the underlying truth. Also, he would be rebellious and reckless. Third, being placed opposite Uranus makes him temperamental, tactless, and prone to exaggerate even trivial issues beyond their due.
Second pointer is the Sun, the prime driver in any chart. Being conjunct Mars, makes him an over domineering character. Second, locking horns with Uranus makes him unconventional, self-willed, and tactless, who may derive pleasure in defying all conventional norms. Third, its opposition to Jupiter further adds to his ego component. Fourth, being ill-disposed to Venus makes him emotionally volatile, too sensitive; he may stretch trivial issues beyond their due. Fourth, locking horns to Saturn, speaks of his preconditioned mind with a negative orientation, whereby he may dwell upon other’s fault lines than their positives.
Finally, the mind signifying Moon, which being locked in adverse formation to Mercury makes him high-strung and resentful to others. Moon again, locking horns with mischievous Neptune makes him an escapist who may not acknowledge truth on its first appearance, and remains stuck to his fanciful dream perceptions, till pushed to the wall.
All these are enough for a stormy relationship with others. With time, one is expected to learn the lessons of life, and rise above one’s limitations, and become worth negotiating the callings of life with ease and comfort.
The writer is an astrologer, vastu consultant and spiritual counsellor. Write to him at G-5, Basement, Jungpura Extension, New Delhi 14 Tel: 9818037273/ 24310031 Email: pioneerqueries@bharatastro.com
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